You get what you give~letting go of the ego and elevating others
The Lovers card conjures all manner of emotions for me. Personally, I don’t subscribe to the immediate intimations of romantic love, rather, I see it as a joining of forces; a card exemplifying strong desires, passion, choices, harmonious relationships and the symbiotic exchanges that help feed collective efforts for a fruitful outcome. I truly feel that if you want to feel and be loved, you have to love and give to others. My friend Joanna Colbert twittered (twitter.com): “You get what you give.”. She claims she did not come up with this profound little epigram, but it speaks a thousand words. I do believe that by letting go and projecting positive energy to others, you will be the recipient of much good will and happy feelings. Friends of mine, Barbara Moore and Lunaea Weatherstone, recently posted a series of joyful ruminations. They put a smile on my face despite the frustrations that I was experiencing at that moment. Simple positive gestures can make a big difference to others who may be in need of some cheer. Then there is my dear friend Kris Waldherr, who generously posed as Jorinda for the Lovers card. Kris is someone who is most supportive of her fellow artist/author—and feels for one’s triumphs as well as failures. She has an intense passion for the arts that reaches far beyond her own accomplishments, thus resulting in much love and admiration for not only her work, but her person. And there are many other examples of “You get what you give”.

The Lovers - B&W
Simply said: by letting go of the ego and endorsing the efforts of others, good things will come in return. It seems like a simple formula for positive living, but in this dog-eat-dog world mentality that persists, some may resist the path of emotional generosity and benevolence. It may seem counterintuitive to put one’s ego in a humble place, but the rewards for making that choice will be surprisingly fulfilling. Some of the basic tenets I’ve learned in publishing and Tae Kwon Do is the idea of teamwork, helping others and giving back (i.e. thank the editor for all of his/her efforts—such courtesies go a long way! Encourage color belts to reach for their black belt dreams etc.). By giving, we can become better versions of ourselves. By helping others find their path, we’re in essence reinforcing our own paths. And by doing so, we can live a more passionate life. But you have to make that initial effort to help others shine. Give it a try and see what happens!

The Lovers, Final Watercolor
Jorinda and Joringel is a story that reinforces the power of love and commitment. In the process of creating my particular interpretation of the famous Brothers Grimm story, I summoned the help of my husband Kort and Kris to pose for the piece. I wanted to include two individuals who have continually acted in selfless ways to help others. Both have been most encouraging and supportive of the Fairy Tale Tarot since its inception and both have been watching me journey through the creative process. Therefore, the Lovers piece is genuinely infused with love and dedicated to Kort and Kris on this Valentine’s Day!
~Lisa

Kris and Kort posing at the Morikami Gardens

Oh, you’re so sweet! What a nice Valentine’s Day surprise from one of my dearest friends!
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So glad I found your blog, I love the fairy tale theme tarot and your work is enchanting!
Cat
Such a beautiful painting Lisa
I like your interpretation of the Lovers, somehow it feels more natural than most.
And I fully agree with all that you wrote… it’s funny, before xmas I won a free Shamanic journey reading which hinted at the need for me to involve myself more in teamwork, develop more of a connection with the world around me.
And that theme has followed me all month! lol Now you mention it here…:)
Oops, I labelled the card 6 of Wands for some reason. Please ignore that if you saw it, it is the Lovers card.
What a fun entry, in time for Valentine’s Day weekend!
I love the photo of Kris and Kort at the end. I think it’s just as magical and lighthearted as the tarot card it turned out to be!